the truth about “dont judge me”

I realized something today..again…and i thought i’ll write it down..again..there are probably other blog entries where i have said this in different ways perhaps..and i have come to realize what i am about to say by what the Quran teaches..but let me just say it here without going to verses…

ideas and claims are true or false..in degrees…and given this or that assumption…but in the end, they can be judged true and false..for someone who is interested in truth, it is inevitable to judge ideas/claims to be either true or false…whether i will choose to say yes to something and try to live by it or whether i will say no to it or ignore it and not live by it and perhaps consider again later…but at any time, if i am looking for truth, i am going to judge…i am going to judge between truth and falsehood…when i am not looking for some truth, it means i am satisfied with what i have and take it to be true (by default..as no one says..i am living with false ideas..whatever ideas people have, they assume them to be true by default even if they dont know that they are)…

as truth seeker, i judge ideas…and truth judges something as false..truth is a judgment..and falsehood dislikes being called out..being held accountable..it wants no accountability…it denies judgment..it says ‘judgment is not possible..its not allowed..its not nice..its wrong..dont judge me!”

so what then is the truth about “dont judge me”?..it is that falsehood does not like being judged as a falsehood..it wants to maintain the delusion that it is true or there isn’t any true or false at all..

now here is the problem…people identify with their opinions and ideas..they think that ideas are theirs…and when an idea they hold is criticized, they defend it…and when it is weakened by criticism and reflection, they feel disappointed because they feel they are being judged as worthless and weak..this is because they identify with the ideas…they want to claim the goodness of the ideas they hold as their goodness and wisdom and intelligence..and they are likewise sad and angry for being judged when their ideas turn out to be not very right or weak…they then turn to you and say ‘dont judge me’..i felt judged…dont get personal..etc…you may not have gotten personal at all..you may have just been talking about the ideas..but to them, they are being judged..and they respond by saying something like “o you are mr. know it all!..”…” you wont be happy until i agree with you..”..”you just want to always be right!”..you are so smart and i am not smart..sorry.. ” ” i dont have a phd like you..” i have a right to my opinion”.(which of course they do)…but now, no matter how wonderful the truth or idea that one was talking about or receiving, it turns to nothing..it has no benefit..it has been ruined by invoking a “dont judge me as a person” which is true..i have no right to judge the person…and so truth is denied by bringing the conversation to persons/egos and its not longer about true and false ideas..

if someone does not agree to speak about and judge ideas and if someone does not make the choice to NOT FEEL judged when an idea they have IS judged, they will feel judged fairly quickly when truth is sought and so conversations with such folks are fruitless…

your reading of these blog posts will also be fruitless if you start to think in this way..that either this author is right..or i am right..or he is judging me…

so good folks…let truth be the judge..and let it be the judge of ideas..and if you are disappointed that an idea you hold is judged as false, resist the temptation to find excuses to say ‘dont judge me’…dont identify with false or weak ideas…look to learn and reason better and embrace more truthful ideas (but again, dont try to own them because you may still find better ones to hold)…if someone can’t keep ideas in focus.cannot bear the judging of ideas as truer or falser, they cannot engage in a pursuit of truth through conversation and exchange of ideas and reasoning…they cannot benefit from whatever is said in these blogs..