In yearning for joy without pain or boredom, rise without decline, togetherness without separation, happiness without sadness, a reality without ‘pairs’, don’t despair about the impossibility of physically experiencing such a reality here and now. You can instead rejoice in the news this despair bears about the existence of non-duality and the soul’s knowledge, pre-experience and therefore atemporal, of such an existence and its preference for it as the ultimate good.